Black Women DON'T Workout!!!!

Lol, Got your attention with that title huh???  Well, we ARE getting better but have a long way to go...


As you know, I have been a personal trainer for almost 20 years now.  I have heard it all.

One thing that really got me upset when I first started was trying to get Black women in the gym.  I heard all kinds of excuses, but the main was, "I don't want to sweat and mess up my hair".   Are you Fucking kidding me...?

I am a weave queen.  Have been for years.  It is easier for me to handle and mange.  I know those of you who go to the salon for a minimum of 5 hrs a pop, don't want to wet and sweat out your hair... But you do it in bed with your mate though.. hmmmmmmm  lol

On a real note..

Why do women care so much about their nails, toes and hair before their bodies?

Well, if you ask me it is an excuse.. a cover up because of laziness.

4-5 hours in the salon is ridiculous.  I know because I have been there.  My time is way too precious for that ish.

It bothers me when I am in the gym and I am the only Black woman in there.  It is not as bad as it use to be but we still have a ways to go.  I can't even say Women of Color because our Latino and Asian sistas be in there kicking it.  There are some gyms that meat markets and hang outs... I have one on the tip of my tongue but I am not going to go there.  LOL.  My sistas in there with gear on that they have no business wearing..
If your ass is too big and you have on leggings, please make sure a shirt covers up your butt.
Do you actually know what you look like from behind while on the treadmill?  Please don't get on the Eliptical....  wowowowow!!

Let me tell you about my sista's........

And get mad if you want to I really don't care.......

If you are in your 30's with a BIG ass that your man told you not to lose... can you imagine what you are going to look like at 35?  I fat ass mess.  Yeah, .... I said it.  An ass, butt, glutes, whatever  you want to call it is FAT and muscle.  If you have piled on enough fat, over the years, it is going to get bigger if you don't get in the gym and hit the weights, do some cardio and eat right.

You don't have to go on a strict diet.... just clean up your act.  Big ass bellies in a BodyCon dress is gross.  Really, when you bought that dress and you saw the rolls in the mirror did you think that was attractive?  Where is the mind set these days.. Where did this come from?  Your MAN?  Chile, Please..

As we get older, it gets harder and harder to get the weight off.  That is no joke.  Don't fall in that trap saying I am going to the gym and month after month goes by....while you are gaining pound after pound per month.

Take control of yourself and do it for you.  You can still workout and have a cute hairstyle if that is your issue.. I just want you in the gym.  If you can't afford a membership go walk around your neighborhood.  Start a Workout Group at your job and walk at lunch.  I have a few clients that do that as well and has been very effective.

If you can't afford a good eating plan, I have a GIVEAWAY you might want to enter, For a free customized eating plan for a month.  
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Whatever you decide, do something for YOURSELF.. You only have One life....Get healthy and look good in the process....

Mwah!!!

All Natural? Put some OIL in that Childs head!!!

REMEMBER FOLKS THIS IS MY DAYUM OPINION....OKAY??? OKAY!!!


Ok, about a week ago I made a comment about mothers/fathers putting oil and or sheen in Natural hair on kids on Facebook.

Dammit... I meant it..

I can elaborate more on here.

I am soooooo sick of seeing little girls  with dry as hay ass hair.  And on top of that it is not combed.  WTF??

Why would you let your child go out of the house looking like that.  When I was coming up that would NEVER happen.  And a lot of us had natural hair.  Put some Ultra Sheen in that hair and call it a day.

Okay, for those of you that do not know what natural hair is... It is where the hair that grows from the  scalp and has no chemical processing.  For Black hair that means that it CAN be course, curly, wavy,  fine or straight.  We have a whole lot of different grades of hair..

I am speaking on the course hair.  Yeah, it may be cute to see the girls  with the bows and headbands in their hair but if it looks like a wool ass rug that mess is a mess.  Parents actually think it is okay.. I see it in the mall, grocery story and even going to school and quite frankly I can't stand it..
Ashy looking hair that is all tangled up with a bow.. REALLY.  LOL

Little girls need to have their self esteem caressed.  That means that they have to feel good about how they look.  Mom/Dad, don't let your little girl be that one that everyone talks about.  Because trust me they do.. Even your friends, but they just won't tell ya.

That goes for braids too.  Personally, Im not a fan of braids...
Just because yo ass is lazy and does not want to do your childs head.. does not mean that you can get braids in your daughters head and not get touch ups.. That means around the hairline get then re-done with they start to look sloppy.  Now if she is in sports and is always sweating.. great hairstyle..

I was volunteering at my son's school last year and I saw a little girls braid fall on the floor because they needed to be redone.. One of the other kids picked it up and started SCREAMING.. "YOUR HAIR IS FALLING OUT".  I had to explain to the child that it was not her real hair.. The little girl with the braids was devastated.  That mother knew good and dayum well when she walked out the house that that childs head was fucked up.

I hate going to the barbershop every other week, but I will not have my son's head looking cray.. believe that.



Now for the other side of this.. INTERRACIAL HAIR.

I have seen a lot of White mothers with their kids hair looking like hay.. really,, the color and everything.. looks like hay.. (It can be pretty (color) but it needs luster.. )
That is because you can't take care of your childs hair like you take care of yours.. It is not the same.. it is MIXED.   Put some OIL in it.... dayum... You can't wash their hair every day...

  Some on the prettiest hair I have seen has come from interracial kids.  I love the wave pattern..  but a lot of them grow up hating their hair cos their moms didn't take the time to learn how to take care of it.

Aveda is a great hair product for mixed hair.  Try the Be Curly.  Smells incredible too.  No, I do not work for them but I love their products.

I don't see this issue with Black women who have kids with white men other than it might be too dayum greasy.. SMH...


I don't believe the "Good Hair"  thang either.. there is no such thing as Good Hair.. people stop saying that shyt.  If you take care of your hair, i.e. wash and condition it.... it is good.

Thats all I have to say on this..... Thank you..

He Told Me I Need To Lose Weight

Ok.......

This goes for the you guys and gals.  Have you ever had your mate tell you that you need to lose weight?

Maybe they said it nicely; or maybe they didn't.  The worst way is that they are hinting around that you need to lose some inches..

LISTEN PEOPLE:  if you are in a relationship and your mate tells you that DONT GET AN ATTITUDE... listen to them...

What they are actually tell you is is that they don't find you attractive any more.  Trust me... when I tell you this.  I have been in the fitness business for almost 20 years.  I have heard everything under the sun.

It is natural to pick up a few pounds over the years.... but that is a FEW.

If you were a size 8 when you met him and yo azz is a 24 now... do you think he thinks that is sexy in bed ladies..??? REALLY.. yeah he might tell you that he loves you (which I'm sure he does) but he doesn't love those extra rolls that you have developed over the years.. after the kids, etc.

And on the other note.. you don't even feel sexy about your dayum self... That is why you cover up in the bedroom.  Big old ugly tree shirts... Lights out....REALLY?  Ask yourself and be real .....
CAN YOU MAKE LOVE WITH THE LIGHTS ON..????      Get in Shape..

Oh yeah guys... this goes for yo azz too.  What about that gut you have hanging between your legs???  What about that Dicky Do???  That means your stomach sticks out more than your Dicky Do.  UGH

Love is strong..... but women;  men are very VISUAL..

That is why there are so many affairs going on... They don't like to look at your azz.. so they are messing around with someone at work, Starbucks, kids football games, etc.

Don't be that bytch.  Get your butt in the gym. Take some Zumba,  Hire a trainer..... get on a good eating plan.. If anything start within first.....

Don't get an ATTITUDE about the weight issue.... do something about it..

For your mate to come to you with this situation.... they want you to fix it... what they don't want is you to rebel and EAT more.....

BOOM!!!!

Let Me Touch You

Alright.. I know the title is something that you were thinking was going to be nasty.. LMMFO.. NOT..
I want to touch you in a way that gets you motivated to get your lazy ass off the couch and into the gym.

I am sick and tired of people saying what they want to do and what they are going to do.. but all the while they are watching others HANDLE UP making "their" dreams come true. Stop letting months go by and you haven't done anything.. STOP IT..

Who does that shyt.. ?

I am also tired of people saying, I can't because I am getting old, I can't because I don't have time, I can't because I have kids, I can't because I can't afford a gym membership.  I can't I can't I can't

ANSWERS TO THAT CRAP:

I see Senior Citizens run faster than me....
Gyms are now open 24hours dayum it..
I am a single mother and get my ass in the gym.. most gyms have Daycare..
The newer gyms now are $10 per month.. If you can't afford that you need to look at your budget.. I am sure that COMBO you ordered for your kids at the fast food joint (cos you don't have time to cook so you say) would handle more than half of that.

Make time for your fitness.  Stop being afraid of getting Yo azz in SHAPE!!!

Stop blaming your childhood, past relationships, and food addictions  on you being FAT!!

Yeah, I said it...... FAT!!!

We are always tip toeing around that word.. IT IS WHAT IT IS..  FAT

I am not here to belittle your or hurt your feelings.. you don't ever have to come back to my blog.. This is my outlet..

You can learn and enjoy, or keep doing what your doing..

I will try to blog often because I have a lot of ish to get off my chest.. hahahahahahaha!!!

Good nite Loves!!

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